Winner’s Triangle
The Drama Triangle is reactive, emotionally charged and unconscious, whereas the Winner’s Triangle is intentional, accountable and solution-focused
Drama Triangle
Fed up with the drama? Constantly experiencing ‘the blame game’?
Muppet Christmas Carol: "Come in, and know me better, man!"
When we see the life of Scrooge, we can understand the behaviour…
A Guilty Secret: Rescuing and Regulating Others
In truth, guilt was never proof that you were doing something wrong. It was proof that you were trying to love in an environment that made love conditional on calm, control, or compliance.
Make room for the mushrooms
Something about them always demands attention; they take us straight back to childhood stories and magical appearances…
S.A.D times ahead
Going out for a walk can really help here, especially in nature where you get a sense of things not being static!
On A Wave of Mutilation?
Sometimes our emotions arrive like sudden waves — powerful, crashing, and impossible to ignore.
The inner-itch you just can’t scratch.
The next time a new sensation shows up, your brain remembers the old fear, and the cycle starts again.
Attachment Styles: What They Mean and How They Shape Your Relationships
During conflict, you might shut down and avoid the conversation instead of opening up.
R.S.D - the bruise we poke
Rejection sensitivity is one of those invisible bruises. It doesn’t bleed, but it throbs. You might seem fine on the outside, but inside, one small moment — a short reply, a sigh, a shift in tone — can land right on that bruise.
Don’t sweat the small stuff? It may be worth paying attention to it though…
When most people hear the word trauma they think of the big, obvious events…
The Subtle Difference Between Jealousy and Envy — it Matters
Jealousy is a different emotion entirely. It doesn’t come from wanting something someone else has — it comes from fearing you’ll lose what you already possess…
Quality over quantity?
Why do we exist in a world where someone is constantly looking; a constant scrutiny regarding the quantity, efficiency and profit of what we do?
Difficult feelings
If you’re editing a part of yourself or keeping it hidden away then people never truly see you. We value being seen, we benefit from being understood and accepted.
It’s time to get things started?
In the here and now, Scrooge places no emphasis on empathy and connection - why would he?
Inner (tree) work
The tree recovered outwardly yet the dark, traumatic stains remain from 1914-1918…
Uncomfortably numb
‘I'll need some information first, just the basic facts.
Can you show me where it hurts?’
Feeling stuck?
I’ve noticed I never feel more alive than when I’m working towards something.
Order some resilience whilst there’s plenty about
Is resilience something we can all tick off?
(Non-possessive) love lifts us up where we belong
What does it mean to belong?